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Why You Still Don't Have Purpose Or Know What You Actually Want
(And why it's about more than finding direction)
This isn't just about getting clear on what you want—it's about trusting yourself enough to commit once you know. Most of what keeps you stuck isn't a lack of direction. It's not trusting your own judgment enough to choose.
Wednesday, September 23 • 6:00–7:00pm ET • Live on Zoom
Reserve Your SpotI hear some version of the same thing constantly. “I just need to find my purpose.” “I need more clarity on what I actually want.” I used to believe that too—that if I could just get clear enough, the rest would sort itself out.
But when we lack self-worth, we struggle to find purpose because most things lose meaning. Worth and meaning go hand in hand. It's hard to know when things matter when you don't think you matter.
Here's what I've actually seen, in years of sitting across from men working through this: some guys really don't have a clue what they want yet. But just as many already have a general sense of where they want to go—with their relationships, their work, the life they're building—and they're still stuck. That tells you clarity alone was never the whole problem. What's actually stopping both of them is quieter than that. They don't trust themselves enough to make the call and stick with it.
That's a different problem than the one you've probably been trying to solve. And it doesn't get fixed with another framework or another five-step plan for “finding your purpose.” It gets fixed by understanding why you don't trust your own judgment in the first place—and what actually starts to change that.
That's what this one's about.
To Your Success,
Connor
This is for you if...
- âś“ You've got a general sense of what you want, but you keep circling the same decision without ever landing on it
- ✓ You've tried the “figure out your passion” advice and it left you more lost, not less
- âś“ You catch yourself avoiding a choice because you're afraid of getting it wrong
- âś“ You've built a life that looks fine on paper but doesn't quite feel like yours
- âś“ You're new to Man Talks and just want an honest hour with Connor before anything else
What We'll Actually Get Into
The stuck feeling
Why having a general idea of where you're headed doesn't make the stuck feeling go away—and why “just figure out your passion” doesn't work.
→ What actually does.
What you're really afraid of
What choosing wrong actually threatens when you get right down to it—it's probably not what you think.
→ Name the real fear.
Rebuilding trust in yourself
Why this shows up hardest in your relationships, not your career—and how you start trusting your own judgment again.
→ Not overnight, but for real.
What this actually is
This is Connor and his team, live, having an honest conversation about something almost every man deals with and almost nobody names correctly. Bring your real questions—we'll get to as many as we can.
About Connor
Connor Beaton is the founder of Man Talks and the author of Men's Work: End Self-Sabotage. He's spent over a decade in rooms with men—one-on-one, in small groups, on stages—helping them see the patterns that keep them stuck long after the goal-setting and the five-step plans stop working. This call is that same conversation. Just live, and free.
